Skip to main content

Color My World


Our little Pumpkin is growing up so fast. I feel like every day I look over at her and she is doing or saying something absolutely, incredibly “grown up.” Take, for instance, the photo of her chowing down on a ham and cheese sandwich in a booster chair (not a high chair) at a restaurant. Sooooo grown up. All these realizations, however, caused me to get a little ahead of myself this weekend with a brilliant idea I’ll call “Project Project” (and, which, at the end of this blog you will see was really Project Fail).

It all started with our little darling being eaten half-alive by mosquitoes (reference prior post about car filling with mosquitoes, etc.). Seriously, her little arms and legs look like an urgent connect-the-dots game-gone-wrong. I try to keep her slathered in alternating all natural (read: ineffective) bug repellent, and then Benadryl spray and calamine lotion but I just cannot seem to stop them from flocking to her and, in turn, her from scratching.

Now I’ll be the first to tell you she is the absolute sweetest thing on Earth and I’d eat her up myself if that wasn’t socially unacceptable, illegal, and just downright creepy, but I couldn’t stand for her being so miserable and had to made the decision this weekend to deny her the absolute sheer joy of going outside. I thought a weekend mostly inside might start her on the road to bite recovery.

In addition to the inside-ness of our weekend, I also laid down an internal mandate that I would keep her in long sleeves and pants to try to distract her from scratching. It being +100 degrees outside, this seemed a little like child abuse – particularly since she kept gnawing at the sleeves and trying to rip them from her arms with her teeth like a wild animal – but I had run out of options (and, besides, I also caught her trying to lick the calamine lotion off of her arm, so I was really desperate to combat her disgusting but creative efforts at resistance).

So inside and covered we remained, save for the occasional outing to church or to Nona and Pop’s (oh, and the one outdoor adventure to the Farmer’s Market). Now, being inside with a very active 15-month explorer is tricky because her attention span is de minimis, though her curiosity is not (part of the reason I couldn’t get a good picture of her in her long-sleeved get-up – she wants to look over my shoulder at the photo before I’m done snapping).

So Sunday afternoon we played, we read, we did all sorts of fun inside-things. At one point on Sunday afternoon, following a much-too-short naptime, Pumpkin got mesmerized by the television while sitting on Dada’s lap. Unfortunately for him, the show that got her was Toddlers and Tiaras, which he happened upon while channel surfing. She was absolutely taken by it, which meant we were forced into watching it ourselves. I was mortified. These women! These children! It was a train wreck.

I smugly assured myself I would never be such a pushy and over-involved mom. I was going to let Pumpkin find her own joy. Heck, I had even spent part of that afternoon learning about Montessori-style education programs for her. I would never be like THOSE moms.

Then came my bright idea. Project Project. What better way to spend a stuck inside kind of day than doing arts and crafts. Pumpkin loves art – looking at pictures, colors, listening to music. This was going to be awesome. It just so happened that I had invested in some Color Wonder paints and papers and was just waiting for the day when it seemed right. This was that day…or so I thought.

I gleefully pulled down the still-packaged art supplies and prepared a place on the fridge for what was sure to be her first of many masterpieces. I got down on the floor with her and took a deep, expectant breath. No sooner had I let that breath out then I realized I had just set myself up for failure. Pumpkin – still very much my little baby – was dunking her hand in the finger paints and then clapping the ooze between her hands happily. I couldn’t even get her to LOOK at the paper. Even when I forced her tiny finger into the paint and onto to the paper, ooh-ing and ahh-ing in an eerily high pitched voice, she still couldn’t be bothered to give the paper a second glance. She did, however, look at me with a what-in-the-heck-are-you-doing-to-my-hand kind of way. I was quickly deflated. That let-down was followed by the sudden realization that I was on my way to becoming one of THOSE moms.

I packed up the art supplies and pulled out one of her favorite books I had read a hundred times, along with a Mickey Mouse doll, a shape sorter, and all the other little Pumpkin favorites I could find. I wasn’t pushing my Pumpkin Picasso anymore. She’d get there in time and I was going to savor THIS time instead.
I did, however, hang up mine and Hubby’s masterpiece, since I had already cleared the space on the fridge and all.

Comments

Popular posts from this blog

These are the days we'll never forget.

 So many times I have started to come back here, yet for one reason (excuse) or another I haven't. The last time I was here in April 2020, the world had only just started to feel surreal. Fast forward 30-something months and it feels like we are just starting to improve. I guess I haven't felt inspired to write much because we were not living the best of days; yet still, as the song goes, they are the days we will never forget. Since we last met, a major hurricane ravaged our hometown in August 2020, leaving many literally homeless (including my parents). The girls and I lived communally with friends in Baton Rouge where they attended school until our electricity was restored. Our home was mostly spared. My parents lived with us for several months while they rebuilt. My work since that day has been almost exclusively on assisting homeowners with their claims. I brought to trial the first two hurricane cases in Calcasieu Parish and we won both.  Also since we were last here, Aly

I Want You To Have It All

As those of you who follow me on IG know, I've thrown the idea(l) of a work-life balance out the proverbial window. Those scales will never balance and there will be days and weeks they tip one way before dropping back the other. There are times I am baking and carpooling like some modern day Donna Reed with a Best Mom coffee mug and other times where I feel like the Queen of the Courtroom, only to find out my kid didn't have lunch at school or forgot her ballet shoes. As an example, it is a known fact around my office that when I am in a big trial someone in my house is going to have a major illness  - literally these have ranged from pneumonia to emergency appendectomy. Talk about mom guilt - not only am I not there to love on them, I can't even really give them any mental energy until I am out of the courtroom. All of that is to say that life, an parenting, and lawyering are all like that - you win some, you lose some. Chasing some pipe dream of balance and harmony only

Hello! The Phone is Ringing So I Say Hello!

I’m not sure what I expected, really. I guess I thought that when Pumpkin officially crossed the one year threshold into toddler-hood that things miraculously got easier. I had a little parenting-confidence and puffed my chest out just a little as I slowly toddled with her, grasping onto my index finger, to the doctor’s office for her one year appointment (see video for an idea of how slow slow is). I sat proudly in the “well baby” room (a place we haven’t spent much time) remembering the days I sat in that same room crying, looking frantically around for a spare diaper and praying they wouldn’t call her name before I could unhook her from her carseat (which took a long time back then) and changed her diaper. One year later here I was. We had come so far. I was proud of us and I looked at those new mothers with a little knowing pity. In all my one year of wisdom, I sat there glowing with the realization that the hard times were behind us. I didn’t have a “baby” anymore, I had a toddle